The first years of Kristin's life, I had no idea what to expect in terms of peers. I can see now I was overly paranoid, thinking that every time someone couldn't do a playdate or when she wasn't invited to a party, that it was personal, an indictment of our family.
Kristin has friends who have intolerant parents, it's after school hours (playdates) that seem to be a no-no, but by now, (1st grade), she has other friends whose parents have no problem and so I don't care. She's not alone and that was my biggest fear. The last three years of school (two years of preschool and one year of kindergarten) have shown me that kids come and go, parents are busy and dismissive of other parents besides me (showing me that my fears of it being personal are unfounded). There's lots of parents of young kids out there who don't associate with other families. Oh, that sounds bad, but it's not because I realize it's a universal thing, families are just busy, mostly. Having never been through parenting before, I didn't know what to expect. I expected the worst.
I had nothing to fear, but of course I didn't know that at the time, now I can look back on it and see. We are all families in the same boat.
3/02/2009
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Though our little guy is only 2, for some reason lately I've been wondering (worrying a little actually) about this as he gets older...parents letting their kids come by to play, other families socializing with our family, etc. Your post was a good reminder that it won't be as bad as I think.
I find myself being more judgmental towards the parents of the other kids in my boy's classes than they are of me. I just don't like them...it feels as if they're trying TOO hard to be cool with us.
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