11/30/2008
11/19/2008
Protesting and blogging
We marched in the rally on the 14th, I hope everybody did on behalf of all gay families.
It was actually very convenient for us. Kristin's ballet class is right across the street from city hall. She got out of class at 10:45 and the protests started at 10:30. Toney went to the protest and Kristin and I just crossed the street to join him 15 minutes later. We marched down the street waving our signs and went by the farmers market and to the Steinbeck Center and then back to city hall.
The night before, we explained to Kristin what a rally was, and gave her an idea of what the whole issue was about. She knows now that not everybody accepts diverse families. She took a piece of paper that night and put her whole name on it, and made a rainbow blob. (She just likes rainbows, it's a coincidence, we haven't told her of it's significance to the gay community). She walked around waving the sign saying "No on 8, Stop the Hate, Arack Obama!"
We were on the local news during the rally, on CBS and Fox, although we were in the background and didn't speak.
It made us realize how out of touch we are with our community and how we'd like to change that.
I'd like to purchase a domain name for my blog and update it with some better blogging software, I don't know which is the best, but it seems that when I search via labels with this one (for recipes), it doesn't return complete results. So there seems to be some glitches. I created this blog so people could get to know this gay family and hopefully not discriminate against gay families anymore. But as Kristin got older, my blogging died down, and while I don't think the blame certainly falls on me for that, this last election made me realize I need to step it up and get back into the blogging game. My problem is lack of direction. We're a really boring family and there isn't much to write about daily. Maybe I should get back into recipes and we can become the Food Network type of gay dads or something. If you look at my blogroll, everybody has a niche. The book dads, the traveling dads, the dads of fully grown children, the dads going through adoptions, the activist moms, the foster moms, small town life moms. We're just kind of the homebodies with nothing to say. Kristin started ballet and after one class, she wants to drop out. It's too much effort for her. Stretching is like more homework she complains. We paid for it, so she's not dropping out for awhile, but it gives you a good idea of how she wants to spend her time.
Somehow I think blogging as the most boring family isn't the way to go.
It was actually very convenient for us. Kristin's ballet class is right across the street from city hall. She got out of class at 10:45 and the protests started at 10:30. Toney went to the protest and Kristin and I just crossed the street to join him 15 minutes later. We marched down the street waving our signs and went by the farmers market and to the Steinbeck Center and then back to city hall.
The night before, we explained to Kristin what a rally was, and gave her an idea of what the whole issue was about. She knows now that not everybody accepts diverse families. She took a piece of paper that night and put her whole name on it, and made a rainbow blob. (She just likes rainbows, it's a coincidence, we haven't told her of it's significance to the gay community). She walked around waving the sign saying "No on 8, Stop the Hate, Arack Obama!"
We were on the local news during the rally, on CBS and Fox, although we were in the background and didn't speak.
It made us realize how out of touch we are with our community and how we'd like to change that.
I'd like to purchase a domain name for my blog and update it with some better blogging software, I don't know which is the best, but it seems that when I search via labels with this one (for recipes), it doesn't return complete results. So there seems to be some glitches. I created this blog so people could get to know this gay family and hopefully not discriminate against gay families anymore. But as Kristin got older, my blogging died down, and while I don't think the blame certainly falls on me for that, this last election made me realize I need to step it up and get back into the blogging game. My problem is lack of direction. We're a really boring family and there isn't much to write about daily. Maybe I should get back into recipes and we can become the Food Network type of gay dads or something. If you look at my blogroll, everybody has a niche. The book dads, the traveling dads, the dads of fully grown children, the dads going through adoptions, the activist moms, the foster moms, small town life moms. We're just kind of the homebodies with nothing to say. Kristin started ballet and after one class, she wants to drop out. It's too much effort for her. Stretching is like more homework she complains. We paid for it, so she's not dropping out for awhile, but it gives you a good idea of how she wants to spend her time.
Somehow I think blogging as the most boring family isn't the way to go.
11/01/2008
We got married last Thursday
Toney and I got married Thursday. Initially, we decided it didn't matter if we got married, we're registered with the state as domestic partners, but Kristin came home about a week or so ago and said that someone in the class told her that two guys can't get married. At least for now, that isn't true.
We pondered it and decided that we should get married for her. Not to take away from the special moment between us, but we've been together 20+ years, there's nothing a marriage can give us at this point, on an emotional level that the two of us don't already share. However, for Kristin's behalf we wanted her to be able to say her daddies are married, when the children of bigots confront her in the future.
It was a sweet ceremony, there were about 10 friends attending. If I can get pics online I will. I hope that when (if - although it's likely) the bigots repeal marriage in three days, that our marriage will be 'grandfathered' in. I can't believe people would steal the protections of a family from our family. It's just hard to blog about this stuff right now. Those who would take marriage from us would take basic legal protections from our child. I just don't know what to say to that right now.
We pondered it and decided that we should get married for her. Not to take away from the special moment between us, but we've been together 20+ years, there's nothing a marriage can give us at this point, on an emotional level that the two of us don't already share. However, for Kristin's behalf we wanted her to be able to say her daddies are married, when the children of bigots confront her in the future.
It was a sweet ceremony, there were about 10 friends attending. If I can get pics online I will. I hope that when (if - although it's likely) the bigots repeal marriage in three days, that our marriage will be 'grandfathered' in. I can't believe people would steal the protections of a family from our family. It's just hard to blog about this stuff right now. Those who would take marriage from us would take basic legal protections from our child. I just don't know what to say to that right now.
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